Marriage
On the first pages of the Bible, we read the account of creation. When God created the earth, he arranged it to be suitable for life. Then he created various forms of life. Finally, he created the crown of all creation - man. He created them as male and female to be " one flesh and one spirit " and told them: " Be fruitful and multiply, and fill the earth, and subdue it ." There, at the very beginning, we see how important the marriage union is.
Throughout the long history of mankind, many institutions and structures have changed and collapsed, but the institution of the family has remained intact. This is because it is of divine origin. God established it and blessed it.
Jesus Christ raised the bond between husband and wife to the level of a sacrament, saying: " What God has joined together, let not man put asunder ." The Church carefully preserves this recommendation of Jesus throughout its history. With the sacrament of marriage, spouses receive the grace of mutual support and upbringing of children. The sacramental marriage relationship lasts until the death of the husband or wife. How many times do you hear that this or that one has been dismissed. The sacrament of marriage is unsolvable. In some cases, there are reasons why the marriage was not validly concluded. If this is proven, it is declared invalid. It is the so-called "annulment".
Sacraments are only for baptized persons. So is the sacrament of marriage. With church permission, a baptized and unbaptized person can be validly married, but the sacrament is only for a baptized person.
Young Catholics who have decided to enter the marriage port must know that one of the church's commandments is to "obey the marriage laws of the Holy Church ." And those laws say that you need to prepare for marriage.
- As a rule, you should contact the priest six months before the wedding. However, it is wise not to set a date, occupy the hall, etc., before talking to the priest, because sometimes there may be reasons why everything cannot be resolved in six months.
- The regulations of our archdiocese are that all couples must undergo preparation. At the first meeting, the priest will provide the necessary information on where this preparation can be done.
- After the preparation, he will meet with the priest again and fill out the necessary forms. The rule is that for each of the newlyweds, one parent must confirm in writing that they are single. And there is a pattern for that. If the parent cannot do this, then two people who have known the young people long enough to testify for them should be found.
- Closer preparation (rehearsal) is done a day or two before the wedding. Then everything is agreed on how the wedding ceremony will go. It is necessary to confess young people, godfathers, brothers-in-law and bridesmaids. So that they could receive Holy Communion on the wedding day. If there are non-Catholics in the wedding procession, they can also approach when communion is distributed, bow their heads a little and receive the blessing.
- The Church is, as Jesus said, " the house of his Father...and the house of prayer ." This should be respected and properly managed. Do not talk (even loudly) in church. Participants in the wedding procession should be properly dressed.
Ženidba
Na prvim stranicama Biblije čitamo izvještaj o stvaranju. Kad je Bog stvorio zemlju uredio ju je da bude prikladna za život. Potom je stvorio raznovrsne oblike života, Na kraju je stvorio i krunu svega stvorenja - čovjeka. Stvorio ih je kao muško i žensko da budu “jedno tijelo i jedan duh” i rekao im: “Plodite se i množite, i napunite zemlju, i sebi je podložite.” Tu na samom početku vidmo kolika je važnost bračne zajednice.
Kroz dugovječnu povijest čovječanstva mnoge su se ustanove i strukture mjenjale i rušile, a ustanova obitelji ostala je netaknuta. To je stoga jer je božanskog porijekla. Bog ju je ustanovio i blagoslovom pratio.
Isus Krist je vezu muža i žene uzdigao na razinu sakramenta rekavši: “Što Bog združi, čovjek neka ne rastavlja.” Crkva tu Isusovu preporuku brižno čuva kroz cijelu svoju povijest. Sakramentom ženidbe supružnici dobivaju milost uzajamnog potpomaganja i odgoja djece. Sakramentalna ženidbena veza traje do smrti muža ili žene. Koji put se čuje kako je ovaj ili onaj dobio razrješenje. Sakrament ženidbe je nerazješiv. U pojedinim slučajevima postoje razlozi da ženidba nije valjano sklopljeno. Ako se to dokaže proglašava se nevaljanom. To je tzv. “annulment”.
Sakramenti su samo za krštene osobe. Tako je i sakramenat ženibe. Uz crkveno dopuštenje mogu se valjano vjenčati krštena i nekrštena osoba, ali sakramenat je samo za krštenu osobu.
Mladi katolici koji su odredili uploviti u bračnu luku moraju znati da jedna od crkvenih zapovijedi glasi da se treba “držati ženidbenih zakona svete Crkve.” A ti zakoni kažu da se za ženidbu treba priremiti.
- U pravilu treba se javiti svećeniku šest mjeseci prije vjenčanja. Međutim, pametno je ne određivati datum, zauzimati dvoranu i drugo, prije nego li se razgovara sa svećenikom, jer koji put mogu postojati razlozi da se ne može sve rješiti za šest mjeseci.
- Propisi naše nadbiskupije su da svi parovi moraju proći pripravu. Na prvom susretu svećenik će dati potrebne podatke gdje se može ta priprema obaviti.
- Nakon obavljene priprave, opet će se sastati sa svećenikom i ispuniti potrebne obrasce (formulare). Propis je da za svakog od mladenaca po jedan roditelj pismeno potvrdi da su slobodnog stanja. I za to postoji obrazac. Ako to ne može roditelj onda treba pronaći dvije osobe koji mlade poznaju dovoljno dugo da mogu za njih posvjedočiti.
- Bliža priprava (rehearsal) obavlja se dan ili dva prije vjenčanja. Tada se dogovori sve kako će obred vjenčanja ići. Potrebno je da se ispovijede mladi, kumovi, djeveri i djeveruše. Kako bi na dan vjenčanja mogli pristupiti na svetu pričest. Ukoliko u svadbenoj povorci ima i onih koji nisu katolici, i oni mogu pristupiti kada se dijeli pričest, sagnuti malo glavu i primiti blagoslov.
- Crkva je, kako Isus reče “dom njegova Oca…i kuća molitve.” To treba poštivati i dolično se vladati. Ne razgovarati (i to glasno) u crkvi. Sudionice svadbene povorte trebaju biti dolično obučene.
Common Questions - Marriage
A sacred union celebrating the covenant between a man and woman as husband and wife. For more information on marriage in the Catholic Church, please visit: https://rcav.org/marriage-prep
